The Style Mermaid by Kisty Mea

The Style Mermaid | Kisty Mea • So it’s not gonna be easy. It’s going to be really hard; we’re gonna have to work at this everyday, but I want to do that because I want you. I want all of you, forever, everyday. You and me… everyday. — Noah, The Notebook
I have this impression that everybody wants to be in love but has absolutely no clue how to stay in love. Being in a relationship is a lot of work; it’s not like the movies. 
And in my four years of being with my boyfriend, I learned that the following are crucial to make the relationship last forever: [[MORE]]
1. LOVE YOURSELF, FIRST AND FOREMOST
You can’t contribute to the relationship if you don’t even know who you are and what you want. And always remember who you are. People, for some strange reason, tend to lose themselves in the relationship.
As a teenager, this was my mistake. I always thought that I could ‘find’ myself with somebody by my side. A relationship is supposed to complement you, not to “complete” you. 
2. START A FRIENDSHIP
Friends are always there for you, no matter what, and the person you want to spend the rest of your life with should also be there, too. 
Be friends, not just lovers. Be awkward and weird together. 
3. LOVE IS NEVER ENOUGH
Love is an important component to make a great relationship work, but it’s not the only ingredient. There must also be trust, understanding and honesty from both parties.
4. SET EXPECTATIONS, BUT IT HAS TO BE REALISTIC
At some point in your life, you and your partner will start talking about the future and both of you will share what you have in mind. When that time comes, remember this: Dream big, try to make those dreams a reality, but don’t make any promises. 
5. COMMUNICATION IS IMPORTANT
Relationships tend to fail because one of you is either not telling the truth or made a conscious choice to lie. Be honest. Sit down and talk if something’s bothering you, no matter how silly it may sound. 
On a personal note: I used to have anxiety attacks during the earlier stage of my current relationship. I was scared that my boyfriend might become one of those jerks I used to date, and he would constantly reassure me that he’s not. :) 
6. MAKE AN EFFORT
Watch movies, surprise him/her, laugh together, challenge each other, do new things together, shower him/her with kisses after work, and so on. The courtship doesn’t end. You have to constantly woo each other. 
I’ll be honest, there were times that we both felt the spark has died down. It’s normal to feel this way after being together for so long. We wanted to save the relationship, so we rekindled the romance. :) 
7. APOLOGIZE AND FORGIVE
Admitting that you’re wrong; apologizing for your mistakes; forgiving those who have hurt you; and letting go of the grudge (if applicable) is extremely difficult. But if he/she is truly important to you, try and find it in your heart to lessen your pride and apologize and/or forgive him/her. 
Convert the blame, shame and criticism these into something more positive. :)
Each relationship is different and I believe that there no definite rules, just mere guidelines. I’m not a love or relationship expert, but these were the things I’ve learned. It might be different than yours, which is totally fine. At the end of the day, what really matters is how you feel for each other and the willingness to make things work, no matter what.  
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So it’s not gonna be easy. It’s going to be really hard; we’re gonna have to work at this everyday, but I want to do that because I want you. I want all of you, forever, everyday. You and me… everyday. 
— Noah, The Notebook

I have this impression that everybody wants to be in love but has absolutely no clue how to stay in love. Being in a relationship is a lot of work; it’s not like the movies. 

And in my four years of being with my boyfriend, I learned that the following are crucial to make the relationship last forever: 

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The Style Mermaid | Kisty Mea • Happiness is a Choice
Here are 15 ways you can overcome daily stress and maintain a happy life.
Eliminate unnecessary commitments
Stop over analyzing and start doing.
Do one thing at a time.
Learn to say no and really mean it.
Don’t compare yourself to others. Life is not a contest.
Find reason to laugh. Even laughing at yourself helps.
Let go of trying to control everything.
Get rid of anything or anyone that makes you miserable.
Practice gratitude. That you are alive is still a gift
Control over expectation to avoid disappointment.
Stop being a perfectionist and move on.
Don’t stress out trying to get everyone to agree with you.
Stop longing for the past and start living in the present.
Don’t trade sleep for work and don’t trade family time for work. Be balanced.
Help others whenever it is within your power to do so.
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Happiness is a Choice

Here are 15 ways you can overcome daily stress and maintain a happy life.

  1. Eliminate unnecessary commitments
  2. Stop over analyzing and start doing.
  3. Do one thing at a time.
  4. Learn to say no and really mean it.
  5. Don’t compare yourself to others. Life is not a contest.
  6. Find reason to laugh. Even laughing at yourself helps.
  7. Let go of trying to control everything.
  8. Get rid of anything or anyone that makes you miserable.
  9. Practice gratitude. That you are alive is still a gift
  10. Control over expectation to avoid disappointment.
  11. Stop being a perfectionist and move on.
  12. Don’t stress out trying to get everyone to agree with you.
  13. Stop longing for the past and start living in the present.
  14. Don’t trade sleep for work and don’t trade family time for work. Be balanced.
  15. Help others whenever it is within your power to do so.

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